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Best Boy -- Part 638.5Best Boy played a huge role in my life during the past two years. He was my friend, my lover and my crutch, as I... more |
Best Boy -- Part 638Earlier this week, I heard my cell phone vibrate. I assumed that it was a text with birthday wishes, but my smile turned to a... more |
Assuaging a husband's fears about sex toysQuestion: I've never used an adult toy before, but lately, I've found myself wanting to try one. I mentioned the idea to my husband, and... more |
Like sands through the hourglassIt's time for a reader's question, and this is a good one! Question: My name is Ethan, and I thought you might be good to turn... more |
My Dating Life in Four PinsAlways own it. Enjoy a new crush. Relish in your inner smitten kitten. Write a post like you're a high school student with a Tumblr account. PS Yes, I'm... more |
The Winter GirlfriendHope you enjoy this guest post from my good friend, The Winter Girlfriend! On February 2, 2012, Punxsutawney Phil saw his shadow declaring six more weeks... more |
Book Giveaway - What Every Woman WishesIt's Friday! Time for a giveaway! Valentine's Day will be here in less than a month. If ever there were a time for men to learn... more |
Want to Date More in 2012?Interested in dating more in 2012? Here are my top five tips, as shared earlier this month on The Tommy Show on 94.7 Fresh FM: 1. Don't... more |
Juggling and jealousyIt's time to answer a reader’s question from Formspring! Question: I like playing the field and your Rules of Juggling. I pretty much commit to one... more |
Another psychic friendOn New Year’s Day, I happened to see another psychic. (It wasn’t planned, but when the opportunity presented itself to receive a reading from a... more |
2011 in HaikuTwenty Eleven Started year in chemo haze In my bed? Best Boy. He said he loves me But does that mean he’s in love? Neither of us know. Winter beach weekend With... more |
Third Blogiversary Thanks!Today is the third anniversary of my blog. In December of 2008, I was getting over Lawyer Boy, working on my thesis, and battling the side... more |
Orgasm HelpNothing says, “Happy Holidays!” like answering a reader’s question from Formspring. Question: I’ve never orgasmed, and I feel like every partner I’ve had takes personal offense... more |
Giveaway -- Hope for the CavemanMen throughout the United States and beyond have adopted a feminine perspective on what it means to be a man. Without realizing it, they have... more |
Facebook and RelationshipsIf your relationship isn’t “Facebook official,” is it real in this day and age of social media? Read on to learn about my thoughts on... more |
Giveaway -- Life's Too Short to Date Men Like MeA Hilarious Guide to Avoiding Jerks and Attracting Decent Men! Every woman has either dated a jerk, or knows a friend that has dated one. But... more |
Faking itLast week, I received three questions on Formspring related to having an orgasm. (Is there something in the air?) I’ll answer those questions in the... more |
Giveaway -- Attracting Your Extraordinary LoveMany of us have been focusing on what we can change about ourselves to appeal to our future soulmates. Maybe it's my hair color? Perhaps... more |
Two years laterTwo years ago today, my boyfriend broke up with me by blocking me on Twitter. That was one of those experiences that I couldn’t have possibly... more |
Playing dirtyI’m rarely one for clean breaks with a guy. Instead, our relationship turns into a game of Frogger. We move closer to each other, then... more |
Saying whenThe end of November always proved to be an eventful time for her on the dating front. Major relationships had started and ended all around... more |
Seven months later -- Part IIShe couldn’t look at the calendar and pick a date when their relationship changed. She only knew that it had changed. He was still there... more |
Seven months laterHe was there for her during both surgeries and six rounds of chemotherapy. No matter what she asked of him, he was there. When she... more |
Losing it!Okay, so I’m a virgin. I want to wait until I’m married to have sex. When I do it for the first time, will it... more |
The Rules of Juggling“Do you tell all the guys you see that you're dating around, or is it just assumed that everyone does it? If someone is seeing... more |
Because It's Never His FaultWhen Rocker Girl offered up another guest post, I couldn't say no to one of her dating adventures! Enjoy xoxo I was feeling particularly cheery on... more |
Readers' Choice #18During my reading with the intuitive, she described the following: I see an older man. He really cares about you. [When she said, “older,” I immediately think... more |
Readers' Choice #17 - Be my psychic friends!In May, I visited an intuitive for a reading. There are several things that I loved about her: 1. She doesn’t advertise and only does readings... more |
The Anal-Loving JonesesYou don’t do anal sex?!? All the girls do it now. -- Statement made to a recently divorced woman from a guy she had started dating When... more |
Readers' Choice #16In October, I was focused on teaching and my charity and advocacy work. Guys weren’t a priority. I didn’t just put them on the back... more |
Giveaway: Does He Cheat?I'm not one who spends time pontificating over whether or not a guy is a cheater. I try to believe the best in people --... more |
Surviving to thrivingOne year ago last week, I got back together with Best Boy. In a post about that decision, I wrote: In the midst of treatment, all... more |
Readers' Choice #15 - His HonorIn true City Girl fashion, it’s tough for me to walk at a slow pace. (If I know where I’m going, I try to get... more |
Readers' Choice #14 - Mr. CEOThere are those weekends that are filled with events, great times with great friends, and lots of interesting guy scoop. This was one of those... more |
City Girl 2.0I've been thinking of ways to take this blog in a new direction. What's next for me? Let's go to the videotape! Video Introduction: Capital Breast Care Center... more |
That eye candy is melting!The votes are in, and by the narrowest of margins, I won’t be going out with Bar Boy again. (For those of you who were... more |
Readers' Choice #13 - Bar BoyThanks to all who voted about whether or not I should go out again with Bar Boy! The majority of you indicated that I should... more |
Readers' Choice #12 - Mr. CEOYou know that jingle that goes, “Sometimes you feel like a nut. Sometimes you don’t?” Well, lately, I’ve been singing my own version of that... more |
Readers' Choice #11 - Bar BoyFor our first date, Bar Boy and I escaped the cold rain for the warm bar of the Hotel Dupont. There was a lot about... more |
Where are they now?What's the latest regarding my Usual and Potential Suspects? Here’s all the scoop that's fit for blogging: Boston Christian: I haven’t seen him since his visit... more |
Readers' Choice #10 - Bar Boy & Mr. CEOFriend: How is your Season of You going? Me [laughing]: I don’t know if it’s a Season of Me as much as it is a Year... more |
Readers' Choice #9 - Mr. OfficerThank you to all who attended my End of the Treatment Celebration and Fundraiser on Thursday night! For those of you who still wish to... more |
She loves himHe told her that he loved her, and she stared at him. Words escaped her, as her brow furrowed slightly and her eyes squinted in... more |
What's my number?At brunch yesterday, a friend relayed the following story to me: So, Joe [a mutual friend] and I were having dinner in Rockville, and the table... more |
Who pays for dates?TGIFormspring?!? It’s time to answer a reader’s question: What's your recommendation when it comes to paying for dates? I get the first, the second, but if... more |
Readers' Choice #8I have Post Concussion Syndrome. No, I’m not an athlete, and I thankfully was never in a car accident. [Excuse me for a second as... more |
Readers' Choice #7 - Mystery ManMystery Man hasn’t checked my blog recently and doesn’t know that you all voted to let me get to know him without the added pressure... more |
Readers' Choice #6 - Mystery ManThe tribe had spoken, and Option #1 was the winner! I would try to meet Country Boy for an hour when I was in Annapolis... more |
Readers' Choice #5 - Country BoyWhat options would I have selected for myself if I hadn’t posed the questions to all of you? 1. When should this adventure start: August 15th;... more |
A bad first timeIt’s Hump Day so let’s tackle a sex question from a reader: My boyfriend thinks since the first time we had sex was awkward, it means... more |
Readers' Choice #4 - Country BoyA majority of readers voted for me to meet new guys by asking friends to introduce me to single male friends of theirs. Even before... more |
Readers' Choice #3I can count on one hand the number of times that I've let friends fix me up with a guy. If I had to guess... more |
Readers' Choice #2As I visualize my dating life after treatment, I’m in a much different place than I was a year ago. Thankfully. I’m not averse to... more |
Readers' Choice #1The Concept: Dating Blog Meets Choose Your Own Adventure Book The Players: City Girl, Interested Readers and Eligible Men The Setting: Washington, DC The Rules: I provide three... more |
The Fine PrintAfter I announced that I’d be turning my blog into a Choose Your Own Adventure for three months, I’ve received a lot of enthusiastic comments... more |
Changing It UpIn 6th grade, my English teacher assigned us the task of writing our own autobiographies. We had to include a family tree and photo gallery... more |
The constant texterI had met Tech Boy at Old Ebbitt Grill in February. I was at the back bar with my girlfriends, wearing baggy jeans, silk underwear,... more |
"O" faceLet’s start the week off with a question from Formspring! Question: My wife does not have an orgasm when I go down on her. She’s told... more |
Not your average cub!I typically don't date guys more than four years younger than me, but Bank Boy could be the exception to that rule. He made me... more |
IMF (Interesting Male Friend)When I first saw a photograph of Bank Boy online, his smile, big brown eyes and muscular build caught my eye. I don’t normally pay... more |
Transitioning from friends to...With the opening of Friends With Benefits, it seemed only fitting to answer this question from a reader via Formspring: How do you transition from friendship... more |
Shaking things upA year ago this week, I met Mr. Agency. A few days later, we grabbed drinks together. A year ago this week, Best Boy spent... more |
Bang and rollAt some points during my six weeks of radiation treatments, I wasn’t in a lot of pain and actually enjoyed being at the Cancer Center... more |
Feeling betterI typically wake up several times in the middle of the night. Each time I did so on the morning in March after Best Boy... more |
The breaking point?As my radiation treatments came to a close in March, I felt quite unsettled about my relationship with Best Boy. What were we? Had sex... more |
Radiation boobsRadiation therapy may be used during cancer treatment to shrink the tumor and kill the bad cells. In some cases (like mine), radiation has been... more |
Lucky giveaway!Are you in a relationship? If so, comment about why you’re lucky in love and you could have a chance to win the Lucky Lovers DVD... more |
Brunch -- Take 2I hadn’t seen Stanford Man since our brunch date seven weeks ago, although he would email me regularly. In some correspondence, he was work focused... more |
Just plain awkwardReceiving radiation treatments five days a week was both painful and exhausting. I took a lot of afternoon naps and had trouble keeping my eyes... more |
Why won't a guy do THAT?Formspring, I haven’t forsaken you! Question: My guy doesn’t go down. He did once for a very brief time, and I’m afraid that he doesn’t like... more |
Perfect position indeed!Looking to spice up your relationship? Still in search of that seemingly elusive G-Spot*? Tired of using your pillows for more than just sleep? Finding yourself sore (and... more |
A surprising night at Old EbbittIn late February, a Southern friend came to town for a visit. She had a hankering for a good Bloody Mary so we joined Autumn... more |
I smell sex and...cancer?Every 30 seconds, someone in the United States is diagnosed with cancer. Last year, at age 37, I was one of those people. I needed a lumpectomy... more |
My go-to guyIn 2011, Best Boy and I went from seeing each other twice a week to once a week. (I wasn't exactly sure why that was,... more |
The end. For real.On President's Day Weekend, I went to the beach...and I lost one of my best friends. I'm not publishing the story of what happened to my... more |
Stick a fork in me. I'm done.Over the course of seven months, my relationship with Mr. Agency had taken several twists and turns. We met and quickly became snuggling buddies. A... more |
Out of the blueAs I walked home from my date with Hampton Man, I texted a girlfriend who frequented some of the same bars and lounges as he... more |
An odd first date - Part IIAs my odd first date with Hampton Man continued, I felt like I was watching a fender bender. It wasn't the worst first date that... more |
An odd first dateWhat constitutes a perfect first date to you? From my perspective, I like when I find myself giddy with excitement and a touch of nervousness before... more |
A busy little beaverThe week after Mr. Agency and I slept together again was a busy one for me. In the midst of five radiation treatments, I also... more |
SlippingOur texts went from sporadic to frequent. As we wrote each other more and more, the topics went from light and innocuous to sexually charged.... more |
How to master the art of dirty talkHow can you master the art of dirty talk to enhance your sex life? Read on for my tips: 1. Status check. There are people who never... more |
Fresh meatSeveral nights after our dinner at Proof, Ash and I headed to Teatro Goldoni for a charity event. I let her know that there were... more |
The first dateTwenty Something in the City is back with her next post about Stately Chris: I was impressed that Stately Chris had called to secure a date,... more |
RoutineTwo girlfriends were in DC for a conference in early February, and we gathered at Proof to eat, drink and talk about work and boys.... more |
Opening the lines of communicationBest Boy and I were stuck somewhere between friends with benefits and a relationship. Limbo City was traditionally not a place that I enjoyed, but... more |
Gaze into my eyes...this Wednesday!Back in April 2010, I got a concussion while I was putting my dog, Nutter, inside the car. Hitting my head on the car door... more |
SimmeringI felt like a little girl in a grassy field, holding a daisy in her hand. I love him. I love him not. I really like him. I don’t... more |
A day too longHere's the next installment from Twenty Something in the City: After Stately Chris and I had shared a lengthy kiss in the depths of a coat... more |
Open to interpretation - Part 2Best Boy had just told me that he loved me. Did the fact that he said it for the first time ever while we were... more |
Open to interpretationI had hoped to go out again with Stanford Man after our inspiring and enjoyable brunch, but much to my dismay, he needed to go... more |
A brunch to rememberAfter I was finished with chemotherapy, I just decided to simmer. Treatment and all the accompanying side effects had drained me physically and emotionally so... more |
The Duck & The Swan -- Part 2Single Mom in the City's conversation with Mr. Exotic about being a duck or a swan in the dating pond continues: Mr. Exotic: Papi [the guy... more |
The Duck & The Swan -- Part 1Dear Readers – Before I get into my next Single Mom in the City Chronicles post, I wanted to let you know about an event this... more |
The Pub Crawl: Episode TwoTwenty Something Female in the City is back with the second installment of her night with Stately Chris! Enjoy -- I had just met Stately Chris... more |
The five heard 'round the worldHope you all enjoy this entertaining guest post from Rocker Girl! xoxo I think every woman out there has that one man they dated that they... more |
ProcessingBest Boy reached out to me on the last night of my last round of chemotherapy. My emotions were all over the place, but I... more |
Taking inventoryI spent New Year’s Eve at the beach with a few of my closest friends. It wasn't hard for me to keep a smile on... more |
The Pub CrawlDear Readers, I'm so incredibly excited to introduce you to the site's newest featured writer: Twenty Something Female in the City! Hope you love her posts as much... more |
Talking it out -- Part IIA part of me wondered if I should hang up the telephone, ending the unnecessary closure talk that I was having with Mr. Agency. But,... more |
Talking it outAs I had predicted, Mr. Agency called me three days after our text conversation. In those 72 hours, I didn't shed a tear over him... more |
True LoveSingle Mom in the City Chronicles: Have you felt true love? Do you know what it feels like? I do. I was married for six years.... more |
A long DecemberAfter Mr. Agency and I discussed what worked for both of us, I had thought that we had agreed to spend one night a week... more |
NegotiationsI found it endearing when Mr. Agency showed how concerned he was about me and my dog’s safety after Flake had gotten loose on a... more |
How do you relay information on social networks?On April 3, 2011, I spoke on a panel at the American University Social Learning Summit. The title of the panel was: Where Do You Draw... more |
Gaining perspectiveAlthough Philly Matt and I talked almost every week, I hadn't seen him since our friend’s wedding over Labor Day. In the fall, Matt learned... more |
Run like the wind!I was beginning to think that I might want to finally pursue a relationship with Best Boy, but I feared that he no longer felt... more |
Bah! Humbug!As I began to wonder if Best Boy and I could be more than just good friends with benefits, I tried to gauge where he... more |
Getting itMy energy and strength finally started coming back toward the end of the third round of chemotherapy. My iron counts were up after five transfusions,... more |
The Single Mom in the City ChroniclesI’m proud to introduce the second featured writer for City Girl Blogs. Please give a warm welcome and lots of supportive comments to Single Mom... more |
Rosetta Stone - Part IOver the coming months, I’ll be featuring several guest posts from fellow bloggers. To kick off the series, I’m pleased to introduce you all to...[insert... more |
What do you need, honey?Let’s tackle a reader’s question from Formspring: So, my partner says she does find me “attractive,” but doesn’t ever really get into the mood. I’m not... more |
In the leadI started to evaluate my dating adventures with Mr. Agency and Best Boy by who was in the lead. When Best Boy came back on the... more |
All was calmMy red blood and iron counts were low, and I needed iron transfusions for five out of nine days in November. The nurses advised me... more |
My 25 centsAfter Philly Matt and I broke up in 2006, we stayed in touch and enjoyed occasional benefits with each other. We both dated other people,... more |
Game changerMy ex-boyfriend, Philly Matt, and I see each other two or three times a year. In a typical month, we’ll text and email several times... more |
Bed restI had just started to feel better from the second round of chemotherapy when I needed to return to the doctor's office for my third... more |
Shaking my headMy third round of chemotherapy was looming so I made the same request to both Best Boy and Mr. Agency: Let’s get together before my next... more |
Ask and ye shall receiveAfter I had dried the first of many tears over Rod’s passing, I picked up the telephone to call Mr. Agency. It went to voicemail,... more |
A content morningWhen Mr. Agency and I woke, there was one thing on my mind. Correction. There were two things on my mind, but I knew that... more |
A night of many emotions (Part II)I tried to contain my shock, as Mr. Agency walked toward me and gave me a kiss on the cheek. (For all intents and purposes,... more |
A night of many emotionsOn the night of the party to toast Sisarina’s amazing redesign of my website and raise money for the Breast Cancer Research Foundation, I wasn’t... more |
What a girl wantsI accepted the fact that Mr. Agency wasn't interested in being in a committed relationship with me and focused on what would make me happy. ... more |
Actions do speak louderI awoke from my night of snuggling with Best Boy, feeling both content and confused. My uncertainty about my future with Best Boy and Mr.... more |
The next chapter? (Part II)Best Boy was coming over my place for the first time in seven weeks. (I wasn't sure of his motivation for doing so, but I thankfully... more |
The next chapter?After my second round of chemotherapy, my concerns about whether or not Mr. Agency was going to be there for me were placed on the... more |
Proceeding With CautionI wasn’t sure if Mr. Agency would be in a position to be there for me during my next round of treatment, but I was... more |
NeedsI had expected that Mr. Agency was coming over to my place in the middle of the day to end our relationship. He had gone... more |
Time to TalkHad Mr. Agency lied to me about when he returned from Chicago? He had texted me that he got back to DC on Saturday morning... more |
What's Going On?Mr. Agency and I were both out of town in early October. I had planned to return from Manhattan on Thursday, but Mr. Agency wasn’t... more |
From FWBs to Roomies?Time to tackle a reader's question from Formspring: Question: Can living with a "friend with benefits" work? Relationship is pre-existing, but the possibility of being roomies... more |
A Giveaway & a SurveyNothing says Valentine’s Day is on the horizon like a Blogger Giveaway and Survey! (Insert applause here.) I recently was contacted by a representative from Knock... more |
The Cart Before The HorseI felt as though Mr. Agency and I were in a good place. I saw him regularly, he treated me well, and I was content. ... more |
Back In The SaddleI felt so sick after my first round of chemotherapy that I didn’t have sex for almost a week. When I finally did have sex,... more |
A Picture's Worth A Thousand WordsThe morning of the Charity Gala on the Hill found me still recouping from my first round of chemotherapy. I had planned to attend the... more |
Too Much InformationMr. Agency stepped up and stood by me as I was recouping from having my medical port installed. The night before my first chemotherapy treatment,... more |
Feeling LuckyI had let Best Boy know that we needed to take the “benefits” out of our “friends with benefits” arrangement. It surprised me that he... more |
More Than Friends With BenefitsAfter my recent conversation with Mr. Agency, I had some concerns. Would his lack of work/life balance be problematic for us in the long run? ... more |
Communication Is KeyMr. Agency had indicated that he would come over to my place after his events. So, when I received a text at 2am in which... more |
From Smiles To...The week after Labor Day, Mr. Agency and I continued to spend a lot of time together in bed. Mr. Agency: I don’t understand those couples... more |
Perma GrinShortly after Best Boy left my place, the phone rang. It was Mr. Agency, letting me know that he was back in DC after his... more |
Once Upon A TimeOnce upon a time, there was a Little City Girl. Her parents raised her with love, support and opportunities. They let her know that she... more |
A Full WeekendPhilly Matt spent the night in my bedroom, but our interaction was more G-rated than XXX. We slept in the same bed together without kissing... more |
Three's CompanyAs August turned to September, I found myself enjoying a beneficial friendship with Best Boy and wondering if there might be relationship potential with Mr.... more |
Quite The Teddy BearMy friendship with benefits arrangement with Best Boy thankfully didn’t bar me from pursuing a relationship with Mr. Agency. I use the term, “relationship,” loosely,... more |
A Good FriendshipBest Boy and I continued to spend more time together, and I appreciated the fact that he put the “friend” in “friend with benefits.” He... more |
Spooning With Best BoyFor one week in mid-August, my place became a revolving door of men. Best Boy, Boston Christian and Mr. Agency had all spent nights at... more |
The Perfect Line-UpShortly after Best Boy left in the morning, I received a text from Boston Christian. He had forgotten his phone charger at my place and... more |
A Year Of Letting Go2010 was a year of letting go for me. Two years ago this week, I started this blog to get over a broken heart. One year... more |
Year In Review Haiku“Buckeyes” Boy reached out That leopard can’t change his spots Once a con artist… He gave me blog gold Who breaks up via Twitter? Milked every last post Saw him in... more |
Three's A Crowd!Best Boy arrived at my place, and I gave him a quick kiss – sans open mouth and tongue – at the door before introducing... more |
Knock KnockBoston Christian called me on Tuesday morning to thank me again for taking him out to dinner for his birthday. He also let me know... more |
Dinner with the Birthday BoyAfter Best Boy and I had sex for the first time, we didn’t talk about what would happen next. I didn't know if we would... more |
The Spy Who Wanted To Love Me -- Part 4Meeting Jim -- Part 4 By Sherry I answered the call from the restricted number: Hello. Strange Woman on Phone: Hello, is this Sherry? Me (wondering if it was a... more |
The Spy Who Wanted To Love Me -- Part 3Meeting Jim -- Part 3 By Sherry I had hoped for a call from Jim and was beyond disappointed when this email arrived in my in-box: Dearest S: Ah,... more |
The Spy Who Wanted To Love Me -- Part 2Meeting Jim -- Part Two By Sherry When I got home from the bridal shower, there was an email from Jim waiting for me: Oh, Sherry, our love... more |
The Spy Who Wanted To Love MeMeeting Jim By Sherry It started at an Indian summer Sunday afternoon BBQ. I’d said hello to the hosts and was going to the cooler to get... more |
Peace And A PieceA Guest Post by the Chief I had met the Canadian at a Crossfit Class in Kandahar, Afghanistan. There is one thing you should know about... more |
Friends With BenefitsWhen Boston Christian and I woke up, we had very different takes regarding the prior evening's events. Christian couldn’t stop smiling and talking about how... more |
A Surprise Visit -- Part 2Boston Christian arrived at my place, and we stood in the doorway and hugged each other for over a minute. We looked into each other... more |
A Surprise VisitThe weekend after my surgery, I relaxed at home. (I felt very good, but I still didn't have much mobility in my right arm since... more |
In Full EffectThe weekend prior to my surgery, Mr. Agency and I had planned to get together. It was tough to coordinate our schedules, though, since his... more |
The Aussie Man Cometh -- Part 2After dinner with Aussie Man, I was still unsure if I saw a future for us together. (And, by future, I’m referring to whether I... more |
The Aussie Man ComethThe gallant Aussie Man arrived in DC for our dinner date. He called me when his flight landed. Aussie Man: Is there a favorite restaurant of... more |
A Friendly NightAs my friend, T, and I arrived at Marvin, I caught her up on the latest with Mr. Exec and Best Boy. Although Mr. Exec... more |
Up On The RoofAfter meeting Mr. Agency at the Masquerade Party, we became friends on Facebook. That led to an email exchange, and then we began texting each... more |
Mr. Windy City - Part 7Thanks to all of you who commented in support of Autumn’s series of guest posts about Mr. Windy City. She and I both appreciate it! Given... more |
Mr. Windy City - Part 6Bad Things Happen In Threes by Autumn My time in NYC with Mr. Windy City had ended on a perfect, bubbly note. But, as I prepared to... more |
Mr. Windy City - Part 5Flirting and Feeling Bubbly by Autumn On Wednesday morning, Mr. Windy City and I planned to meet by the Statue of Liberty ferry. I will never forget... more |
Mr. Windy City - Part 4Feelings Confirmed…Maybe by Autumn My discussion with Mr. Windy City after the disappointing call from his uncle lingered in the air. City Girl arrived home in the... more |
Mr. Windy City - Part 3An Uncomfortable Vibe by Autumn After lunch on Monday, Mr. Windy City and I hung out at the apartment for a couple hours before meeting a few... more |
Mr. Windy City - Part 2A Blur of Contentment by Autumn The following day, Mr. Windy City spent the morning with his family before we met in the afternoon. He had volunteered... more |
Mr. Windy City - Part 1If all goes well, I’ll be having chemotherapy tomorrow followed by three days of IVs. In the meantime, please enjoy a series of great guest... more |
Permission To Come Aboard?This summer, my mentor invited me to a private party at The University Club. It was a great event, although I imagine that I stood... more |
Blow FunA reader recently asked me for advice about giving a blow job. The owners of Lotus Blooms have also fielded similar questions so it made... more |
A Model Boy?When Model Boy and I arrived in front of my building, he stopped the car and turned to kiss me. The kiss was gentle and... more |
No Masks Required -- Part 2I found myself at the Masquerade Party without a mask or the proper attire, but that didn’t stop me from having a fabulous night! I... more |
No Masks RequiredIt was a steamy Friday night in late July. Autumn and I had planned to attend a friend’s birthday celebration, but the night took a... more |
The Next StageThe middle of July found me wondering if Mr. Exec and I could move from an emotionally dysfunctional relationship to a purely sexual relationship. My... more |
Benefits Without Friendship?After my biopsy in early July, my friend, AP, called to check on me. I updated her on the day’s events, including the horrible night... more |
The Nail in the CoffinIn early July, I had a breast MRI that revealed three areas of concern that hadn’t shown up on my mammogram. Mr. Exec and I... more |
Dutch Boy Is BackEarly July found me at an impasse with Mr. Exec. A large part of me felt as though I needed to cease all communication with... more |
Why Do People Ask Me For Advice?On to another question from Formspring: Question: The one thing I’m most confused about is why all of these people write to you for relationship advice,... more |
The ImpasseI had reached my breaking point after being at the bar with Mr. Exec. I asked him to call me, and a few hours later,... more |
Out of the ParkBefore Mr. Exec left my place on June 29, 2010, I brought up his desire to have a meeting with Best Boy and Melanie about... more |
Quick, Quick, SlowI receive quite a few sex and relationship questions via Formspring, but it’s been a while since I’ve posted my answers to them. (Damn chemo!) ... more |
A Calmer RideThe morning after I learned I had breast cancer, I awoke and called my breast surgeon to figure out what the next steps were. Unfortunately,... more |
Diagnosis Night -- Part 4I was on board the Mr. Exec Roller Coaster and was surprised at how many unexpected twists and turns the ride took on the night... more |
Diagnosis Night -- Part 3I had thought that June 22, 2010 would be a memorable day in my life because that was the day I had been diagnosed with... more |
Diagnosis Night -- Part 2I had just been diagnosed with breast cancer several hours ago. Now, I was at an event with Mr. Exec, watching him grab another woman’s... more |
Diagnosis NightOn June 22, 2010, I received the call from my doctor, informing me that I had early-stage breast cancer. When I hung up the phone,... more |
Quite A DayAfter my breast biopsies, I returned home to rest. Mr. Exec called me when he was out of his meetings to check on me. Mr. Exec:... more |
A Surprising TurnI woke up the morning after my relationship discussion with Mr. Exec and felt even more unsettled. He wanted to be in a selectively open... more |
Selectively OpenFor the past month, I felt as though I had been on the Mr. Exec Roller Coaster. We were a couple. We weren’t a couple. ... more |
A Salty Second DateI'm recouping from my second chemotherapy treatment this week. In the meantime, please enjoy this entertaining guest post from Ethan of the food blog, Tastes... more |
Intimate TermsI exhaled deeply before picking up the phone to answer Mr. Exec’s call. Me: Hey. [Pause.] What's up? Mr. Exec: Hello. How are you? Me: Good. We continued to... more |
Getting WarmerMr. Exec and I didn’t contact each other after our heated discussion about my blogging about our relationship. My friend, AP, speculated that he would... more |
The CallI found myself surprisingly comfortable with Mr. Exec. We were fuck buddies – nothing more and nothing less. However, my comfort was replaced by nostalgia,... more |
Just BenefitsI left for the American Association of Sex Counselors, Educators and Therapists Conference in early June. I figured that Mr. Exec and I would engage... more |
Playing With MatchesMr. Exec was in town the weekend after our recent booty call. He didn’t have much on his work agenda so I found it rather... more |
A Full PlateMr. Exec and I weren’t a couple, as evidenced by our recent booty call. I adjusted my expectations accordingly and was now free to date... more |
Go Daddy!Memorial Day Weekend found me in an odd place with both Mr. Exec and Philly Matt. Philly Matt was off to spend the holiday in New... more |
A FIRST DateI'll get back to my tales with Philly Matt and Mr. Exec tomorrow night, but until then, I hope that you enjoy this guest post... more |
Really bad timingMr. Exec and I were dating again - maybe. My ex-boyfriend and close friend, Philly Matt, was heading to New England in a week to... more |
TomorrowI was up in Friendship Heights last week, when I received the call from my oncologist's office. The physician's assistant tried as kindly as she... more |
A confusing dayMr. Exec and I had slept together, and I wasn't entirely sure how to balance out my attraction toward him with his penchant for nonconsensual... more |
Big DaddyMr. Exec had been in my bed several times before, but tonight was different. Without talking about it, I knew that we were going... more |
Even more to the storyMr. Exec and I had dated for a month. And then, we stopped talking to each other for a month. Now, Mr. Exec... more |
(Much) more to the storyAs I joined Mr. Exec on the couch, we caught up about work and life. (Yes, we had seen each other a few days... more |
More to the storyI headed upstairs after my fun date with Best Boy AND Mr. Exec, his best friend and the guy that I had dated for a... more |
A night to remember - Part IIWhat do you get when you mix one City Girl, one Best Boy and his best friend and a guy that I dated for a... more |
A night to rememberWas I being punked?While in the cab en route to meet Best Boy at Ceiba, he called to inform me that his best friend and... more |
A new chapter...maybeImprov Boy was out of the picture, and I found my lineup in May to be rather thin. I needed to remedy that quickly!... more |
Ending on a high noteI had gone from confused to amused at Improv Boy's antics after hearing Abigail's take on the evening. If a guy was going to... more |
And a miss!Improv Boy had just informed me that he didn't want to come upstairs with me because he didn't think we had a future together. ... more |
A swing...As my group left Nationals Park, some of my friends expressed interest in going to a bar.Improv Boy: Do you want to join them?Me: I... more |
Take me out to the ballgameAs I arrived at Nationals Park, I smiled as I recognized some of the men working security. (I used to be a regular at... more |
Feeling safeImprov Boy and I never talked about whether we were a couple, but we definitely interacted as though we were in a relationship. The... more |
Making the right choiceWith Improv Boy, I consciously chose not to over-analyze the relationship and every potential problem. He treated me well, and he made me smile.... more |
Giving things a chanceI had just realized that I had been mistakenly texting my high school boyfriend, Boston Christian, all afternoon, instead of the guy that I was... more |
Texting funI had a little crush on Improv Boy, and it felt good. We were in that blissful early phase of a relationship. I... more |
Making me blushSeveral hours after Improv Boy had left my place on a Monday morning in early May, I awoke with two thoughts on my mind:1. It was... more |
I'm too vain for this!After my Mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer in 1997, we went to Memorial Sloan-Kettering Hospital for a second opinion. As we waited in... more |
Rooting for the Dutch?As April turned into May, there were a few guys in my life. Improv Boy was in the lead, especially after he surprised me... more |
How nice is too nice?For our first one-on-one date, Improv Boy suggested dinner in the city. That was perfect for me! I texted him to inquire if... more |
Nice guys are...nice!As I headed over to Clyde's for Happy Hour, I found myself rather apathetic about meeting Improv Boy. My apathy stemmed less from true... more |
Changing my waysMy birthday was behind me. Philly Matt had gone back home. Mr. Exec was trying to reach out, but after he had failed... more |
My 1st Orgasm - Part IIA week before I started my junior year in high school, I headed up to Boston. At the time, my cousin and her husband... more |
My 1st Orgasm - Part IThank you to DC Blogs for featuring my post, "Stage 1. Not so fun," on the homepage yesterday! I'm grateful to have this blog... more |
Stage 1. Not so fun.I've been thinking a lot about the different hats that I wear. I'm a relationship and sex blogger. I'm the in-house product reviewer... more |
Kinda cute.I was excited to learn that Lotus Blooms carries Bswish sex toys. Bswish boasts products that are chic, functional and attractive. Think pretty... more |
No harm. No foul.After a promising first date with Mr. Surgeon in mid-April, I waited to hear from him. I knew that he didn't typically work on... more |
Is older wiser?By mid-April, Mr. Exec and I were no longer dating, and Philly Matt had no plans to return to DC anytime soon. My friend,... more |
End of storyFollowing my birthday celebration with Philly Matt and my friends in mid-April, I received several texts from Mr. Exec. Prior to my concussion, I... more |
Are 3am texts ever sincere?Following my concussion in early April, I canceled my plans for several days to recoup. I wasn't sure when I would hear from Mr.... more |
Insult to injuryIt was the first weekend in April, also known to any sports fan as Final Four weekend. I was planning to watch the games... more |
Just Do ItA thank you doesn't seem sufficient for all the support you all have shown me! Your comments brought tears to my eyes and reminded... more |
Something to talk aboutIt was another cold and rainy day in DC in late March. The weather was perfect for relaxing at home so I curled up... more |
MelancholyIt was the last weekend in March, and I found myself a bit melancholy as I headed off with my group for our annual ski... more |
The run-aroundMr. Exec and I were still getting to know each other, but I found myself thinking about him often. I felt a combination of... more |
Less than smoothMr. Exec recently commented that I'm more like a journalist than a blogger. I'm not sure if that's true, but I definitely appreciate a... more |
Internet InfidelityLast weekend, I attended the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists' Annual Conference. Dr. Katherine Hertlein's workshop on Internet Infidelity drew a... more |
Trusting your partnerI had planned to continue writing about my day of playing hooky with Mr. Exec, but Mr. Exec has asked me not to blog about... more |
Playing hookyIt was a cold and rainy Tuesday in late March. I was lounging on the couch in my Old Navy sweats when my phone... more |
Top 10 Posts 2.0When I started this blog 17 months ago, I never imagined that it would lead me here -- to Pittsburgh to attend the American Association... more |
Go Daddy...No DaddyTwo weeks ago, I was enjoying drinks on the patio at Italian Kitchen with my friend, Lisa. I caught her up on my latest... more |
A day at the ImprovAfter my promising first date with the intriguing Mr. Exec, I sent him a text to let him know that I had a wonderful time... more |
The Reverse SpitzerThe logical side of my brain knew that I shouldn't contact Big Dog after we met at an event in mid-March. He was married... more |
Quite a big dogThe middle of March found me smiling from my blog party and first date with Mr. Exec. I looked forward to getting to know... more |
Tea for twoAs my date with Mr. Exec approached, I found myself a bit giddy. Mr. Exec was handsome, successful and intriguing, and I was looking... more |
Yes, I prefer to date black menA reader posed the following question to me on Formspring several weeks ago:Where does you fascination/love for black men stem from? (When/how?) Is it a... more |
Wrapping it upI recently received the following question on Formspring:I have had unprotected sex a couple of times, and I know it's a bad idea for the... more |
Toy StoryIn the spirit of Sunday Funday, let's talk about Sex Toys, shall we?I've received a few questions about sex toys lately so I decided to... more |
In like a lionLast October, I attended a charity event on the Hill. When I walked into the venue, I immediately noticed Mr. Exec, a very successful... more |
Change is in the airI was at home yesterday when my phone rang. It was my ex-boyfriend and close friend, Philly Matt. We hadn't talked in two... more |
The PackageAt a charity event in February, I met quite a few of DC's most eligible bachelors. I gave four of them my business cards... more |
A quiet FebruaryFebruary 2010 was a quiet month in DC, as the two blizzards in less than a week brought the city to a halt. (When... more |
Passing the testIn the first month of my relationship with "Buckeyes" Boy, I trusted him implicitly. I opened up my heart and my home to him... more |
This, that & losing itQuestion: Can I write a blog post in less than 500 words?Answer: Yes...when asked to do so in a guest post for a friend's blog.Last... more |
Sex Bomb ReviewIt's been a couple of months since I sampled one of the goodies from Lush's box of True Romance. What was left in the... more |
The boy messed with the wrong community!I headed to last week's event, knowing that my ex-boyfriend, "Buckeyes" Boy, might also be there. I had my plan in place and even... more |
Stick a fork in meIf The Baron wasn't heading off on another dangerous mission to the Middle East, then I probably would not have communicated with him in late... more |
Choosing my pathI'm torn between writing about The Baron or filling you all in on last night's event. (If you don't follow me on Twitter,... more |
I like him. I like him not.The Baron did cocaine. He spent nights with adult entertainers. He had grief, anger and post-traumatic stress issues. He kept going back... more |
How soon is too soon to have sex with a new guy?When I was in NYC recently, I had lunch with an old friend. In less than a month, her long-term boyfriend had broken up... more |
Better timing?JAG Man was back in the line-up. "How did that happen?" you might be wondering, if you're familiar with my blog."Who's JAG Man?" you might... more |
An interesting callThe day after the January dinner party that turned into a den of inequity, I heard from The Baron:Thank you so much for coming yesterday!... more |
Different worldsI felt like The Baron was going to stay in the "Friends Zone." Back in January, he seemed like a little lost puppy dog... more |
Dirty Talk - Pet PeevesI was planning on continuing with tales of The Baron, but since today is LiLu's last TMI Thursday, I had to switch gears.Last week, I... more |
So not readyI returned back from Philadelphia and my shower fun with my ex-boyfriend and now close friend (with benefits, according to most of you), Philly... more |
Talk Dirty To MeA few months ago, a friend asked me for advice about talking dirty to her boyfriend. More recently, two other friends added to that... more |
Rimming itNothing says it's TMI Thursday like a post about giving my first rim job. Yeah, I went there so of course, I'm blogging about... more |
How do you define sex?What constitutes "sex" to you? Jean from Girly Adventure posed that question to me in a comment to my last post about Philly Matt. She... more |
Friends. And more.Philly Matt drove us back to my hotel on January 2, 2010. We had one thing and one thing only on our minds...dessert. ... more |
Just friends...right?When my train arrived in Philadelphia's 30th Street Station on January 2, 2010, I had a huge smile on my face. I was going... more |
Around the rimA reader sent me an email on Twitter last month, asking me about rimming. (For those of you who don't know what rimming is, it involves... more |
One orgasm at a timeEarlier this month, I received this question from one of my favorite virtual friends:How do I stop myself from essentially being "done" after one clitoral... more |
A new yearI awoke on New Year's Day in The Baron's bed with mixed emotions. I was happy to be spending time with someone new, but... more |
Coke in my hoo-haAs 2009 drew to a close, I was thankful to have "Buckeyes" Boy out of my life, but I wasn't about to jump into... more |
Pros...and a conDecember 29, 2009 was a notable day for several reasons:1. I ran into Lawyer Boy and realized that I was completely over him;2. It was "Buckeyes" Boy's... more |
Lessons I've learnedI'm all about self-reflection so what did I learn from my relationship with "Buckeyes" Boy?1. I'm over Lawyer Boy.You never really know when you are over... more |
The revealIt was New Year's Eve. My hair was done, and I had my party dress on. I had Tweeted that I was heading to Georgetown... more |
New strategies"Buckeyes" Boy hadn't paid for his parking tickets. He hadn't unblocked me from Twitter. He hadn't found an hour or two in almost... more |
The Best Actor Oscar goes to..."Buckeyes" Boy absolutely wanted to be friends, but I didn't know if I could do that. I did know, however, that I wanted to... more |
Get me off of this ride!So, "Buckeyes" Boy lied to me -- and several other members of the DC Twitter community -- about where he went to school and played... more |
My own Lifetime movieWas I disappointed when I found out that "Buckeyes" Boy had lied about playing football at Ohio State? Of course. But, I'm a glass half-full... more |
Wheel of emotionsI awoke on the morning of December 3, 2009, with mixed emotions regarding Buckeyes Boy. Imagine a wheel like the one on Wheel of... more |
Mounds of frustrationI left Buckeyes Boy on December 1, 2009, with his set of keys to our my place in my hands. I waited for tears... more |
Ball of confusionThroughout the morning of December 1, 2009, I felt myself becoming stronger and stronger. I had tolerated a lot in my relationship with Buckeyes... more |
My BF blocked me on Twitter. Now what?I felt like I was in the middle of the ultimate Twitter relationship story. I had met Buckeyes Boy at the Twestival in September 2009,... more |
Just Call Me CarrieI woke up on November 30, 2009, feeling confused and unappreciated. Buckeyes Boy hadn't come through yet again last night. I wanted to... more |
No longer that thankfulBuckeyes Boy was scheduled to arrive back in DC on the Saturday after Thanksgiving 2009 to oversee not one, but two, events at the Convention... more |
An odd ThanksgivingBefore Buckeyes Boy left to spend Thanksgiving 2009 in Georgia with his family, I asked him for a small favor: I realize that you'll be busy... more |
Being thankfulBefore Buckeyes Boy left for work on Tuesday, November 24, 2009, we talked about whether he might be able to join me later that... more |
Breadsticks, brothels and photosIt was Sunday, November 22, 2009. I had a new plan with respect to Buckeyes Boy. If he didn't demonstrate to me that he was... more |
PrioritizingThe patterns of late in my relationship with Buckeyes Boy were unhealthy. Somehow we went from dominant and submissive in the bedroom to dominant... more |
The light bulbMy game of Chutes and Ladders with Buckeyes Boy continued. There seemed to be a direct correlation between his work schedule, his mood and... more |
Comments (please?) and an oral quandaryIt makes me smile that you read my blog and care so much about me! I really appreciate your thoughtful comments, in spite of... more |
"Ring"ing in the New Year - maybeOver the past two months, Buckeyes Boy and I have had more ups and downs than a game of Chutes and Ladders. But, mid-November... more |
Green + Red = YellowMy recent posts about my relationship with Buckeyes Boy have generated a lot of comments, and I really appreciate hearing everyone's thoughts! The bulk... more |
Two monthiversaryFor our two-month anniversary on November 10, 2009, Buckeyes Boy and I went to Farmers and Fishers in Georgetown. (I realize that's not a... more |
Dominant and submissive, but not in the good wayBuckeyes Boy and I had been together for two months. The first month was blissful. The second month, however, had been rough, as... more |
Oh crap!It's TMI Thursday so time to talk about anal!Sex is my favorite thing to do. Simply put, sex is my favorite:1. Hobby;2. Stress reliever;3. Exercise; and4. Way to... more |
Why do I stay? Love.Buckeyes Boy had been more affectionate and communicative with me over the past week, but the issue of the parking tickets weighed on me a... more |
Better, but notI could tell that our talks in late October 2009 resonated with Buckeyes Boy by his actions. He was nicer, more thoughtful and more... more |
The talkThe issue of checking in took on a life of its own at Casa de City Girl y Buckeyes Boy. Buckeyes Boy was adamant... more |
The Check-InI hung up the phone on October 21, 2009, and went into the second bedroom. I had sensed that Buckeyes Boy was upset with... more |
A corset for one just ain't fun!The blissful honeymoon stage of our relationship was over. Buckeyes Boy had started his job at the Convention Center and was overwhelmed and exhausted... more |
Unsatisfied = unhappyWith Buckeyes Boy working long days and nights at the Convention Center, I did my best to take care of him and make his life... more |
I'm a 1950s housewife!I am giver. A nurturer. I take care of the people in my life. How did those qualities manifest themselves when Buckeyes... more |
Coffee...talk 2.0I was at my laptop on October 14, 2009, when Virginia Boy texted that he was heading to my neighborhood. I met him downstairs... more |
I get it! Kind of.I woke up on October 14, 2009, thinking about my fight with Buckeyes Boy the night before. Buckeyes Boy kissed me and went off... more |
Trouble brewingWhen Buckeyes Boy came home from work on October 13, 2009, we talked about his day. Since the Convention Center hosts events almost every... more |
Coffee...talkIt was Sunday, October 11th, 2009, and Buckeyes Boy was starting his job at the Convention Center in the morning. We spent the day... more |
Relationship statusBuckeyes Boy and I had been together a month! In a few days, he was going to be starting his job at the Convention... more |
The intimacy of analI have been frequenting L2 Lounge quite a bit recently. When people ask what I do (which is usually the first question that people... more |
Dishing on sex and Lush product reviewHave you wanted to see what I look like in real life and hear my voice? Well, now's your chance! I was thrilled... more |
Who let the dog out? Not Buckeyes Boy.I adopted a dog from a rescue organization last March. Nutter -- short for Fluffernutter -- is a sweet, shy 7-year-old ball of fluff.... more |
Party time...and back on trackBefore I get back to the next post about Buckeyes Boy, I want to cordially invite you to my Blog Party at Black Finn DC... more |
From bad news...to good newsI barely slept the night after Buckeyes Boy received the call that he had gotten the job at the Convention Center. We should have... more |
Good news...and bad newsLet us return (after a much longer hiatus than anticipated) to the tale of City Girl and Buckeyes Boy. When last we left, it... more |
Sex during that time of the monthYes, folks, I'm going there. Once again, I'm blogging about sex...and dirty sex at that. I'm talking about sex during that time of... more |
Sealing the dealMy last post about Buckeyes Boy generated a lot of comments (both on this site and off). I wouldn't say that Buckeyes Boy's imperfections... more |
PerfectionDo you remember the scene in Good Will Hunting in which Sean talks to Will about how people aren't perfect, and how accepting that fact... more |
First comes love, then comes marriage...After Buckeyes Boy and I started talking about marriage, discussions about children naturally followed. We didn't specifically address the issue of when, but we... more |
Who knew I was such a sap?Last week's posts were all about sex in the shower and anal pleasure. With all due respect to my favorite hobby, I thought I'd... more |
When it's right, it's right!Buckeyes Boy and I awoke on September 24, 2009, and began to make out. It had been two weeks since we met, and we... more |
Sex in the shower - tips & Lush product reviewA comment from one of my favorite bloggers got me thinking about how I have sex in the shower...logistically. Yes, there are space constraints,... more |
Stop. Shower time.I mentioned in my review of Lush's You Wash My Back soap how I love to wash Buckeyes Boy from head to toe and everywhere... more |
Mrs. Buckeyes Boy?Buckeyes Boy and I were moving in together! Yes, he needed to find a job in DC and get his belongings out of storage... more |
No 'I' in teamIn all of my relationship and sex advice posts, I stress communication. The logical side of my brain realizes that communication is essential to... more |
How rough is too rough?September 2009Can 10 days change your life? Since meeting Buckeyes Boy at the DC Twestival, it sure felt that way. I put my... more |
Toy shopping for othersI recently overheard the following conversation at Pleasure Place in Georgetown:Girl [holding her boyfriend's hand and pointing to a vibrator with her other hand]: So...do... more |
Why does it have to be so hard?An Imerika Guest Post:Why does it all have to be so fuckin hard?Is it too much to ask to just have ONE person whom I... more |
It's Friday and I'm still in loveFriday, September 18, 2009Buckeyes Boy and I couldn't stop smiling and giggling as we got in my car to go to Safeway. I hoped... more |
It's Friday and I'm in loveFriday, September 18, 2009Buckeyes Boy and I were going to be moving in together! I was jumping up and down in my apartment and... more |
This is real!September 2009I was falling in love with Buckeyes Boy. Me! And, it felt amazing!I awoke on Friday morning (eight days after we met... more |
WeekiversarySeptember 2009In the midst of my bliss with Buckeyes Boy, I heard from JAG Man...a few hours after I ran into him outside. He... more |
Sex can be a pickle (and Flying Fox review)September 2009I've written about my amazing emotional connection with Buckeyes Boy and how we bonded from our first date. And, I've blogged about our... more |
BlissSeptember 2009I felt as though I went to the DC Twestival and walked out with an instant boyfriend. *Poof* Normally, the thought of... more |
Defining the relationshipAn Imerika Guest Post: Is waiting for a commitment just a polite rejection? In relationships, how long are you willing to wait? Is there a timeline for... more |
Third time's a charm!September 2009I had met Buckeyes Boy only three days ago at the Twestival, and yet, in that short time, all of my emotional walls had... more |
Don't say this to me when I'm singleAn Imerika Guest Post followed by a City Girl question for you: "When you least expect it, someone will pop into your life." "When you're happy... more |
A 2nd great dateSeptember 2009My first date with Buckeyes Boy was amazing! I knew that I was attracted to him physically from the moment that I laid... more |
A GREAT first dateSeptember 2009I went to bed after the Twestival with a huge smile on my face because of Buckeyes Boy. Eight hours later, I woke... more |
Why I buy shoes that hurt my feet (or why I date the wrong guy)An Imerika Guest Post: We've all heard the shoe comparison "Dating is like buying shoes, you have to try them on and make sure they fit... more |
Sex toys with your partner...wanna play?I received the following e-mail from one of my favorite girls a few weeks ago:Professional advice – no, not legal! I've booked a romantic... more |
An anal query (and Honey Trap review)One of my favorite bloggers sent me a great question via comment in response to my Anal 3.0 post:I am a man and have no... more |
The end of the endMay 2006 I rushed to pack up my things and board the next New Jersey Transit train from New York to Trenton. Philly Matt needed me.... more |
The middle of the endApril-May 2006A week after Philly Matt and I broke up, I caved and called him. In the back of my head, I knew that... more |
Anal 3.0: The Back StoryAfter writing my previous posts about anal sex, I've received several questions about the topic. Here are some of my thoughts to those questions,... more |
The beginning of the endApril 2006I loved Philly Matt. He loved me. And yet (not to sound like a bad country song), I didn't know if our... more |
(Not that) Happy Birthday to me!March-April 2006Philly Matt was heading to Qatar with the Air Force Reserves in five weeks so I tried to focus on the positive. He... more |
What goes up must come downJanuary-February 2006Philly Matt and I wanted to make our relationship work, and yet, our problems as a couple were mounting:1. The base at which he... more |
And another door opens - Part III walked around Midtown Loft during the DC Twestival, mixing and mingling as City Girl, Relationship and Sex Blogger. I met a few more... more |
And another door opensSeptember 2009I woke up on the morning of the 10th with a heavy heart and a few tears in my eyes. On this day... more |
One door closes...August-September 2009I had seen JAG Man twice in one week, and yet, I still wasn't sure how we felt about each other. He was... more |
Two strikes and you're...?August 25, 2009On several occasions since I had met JAG Man, I had a feeling that he was on his way out of my life.... more |
Tipping scalesAugust 24, 2009When my emotions become too deeply entrenched in a relationship, logic goes right out the window. Up until that point, though, I'm... more |
Stepping up...sort ofAugust 2009Despite the fact that JAG Man clearly didn't understand how to deal with a multi-orgasmic girl like me, I wanted to give him (us?)... more |
Wanting moreAugust 2009JAG Man and I had a wonderful date at The W Hotel's bar and restaurant, but the elation turned to deflation when his little... more |
Ho, Ho, Ho to Bah Humbug!December 2005All I wanted for Christmas was Philly Matt. Much like I did for Thanksgiving, I headed up to Philadelphia to spend the Christmas... more |
Feeling thankfulNovember 2005I wondered if I had found The One in Philly Matt. We saw each other one or two weekends a month, which allowed... more |
Life is good. I am bad (kind of).October-November 2005The leaves started changing colors, as fall arrived in Washington, DC. I was fully recouped from my surgery and completely head-over-heels in love... more |
All the stars are alignedAugust 2005I was in love with Philly Matt. [Insert at least one Awww here.] You would think in my blissful state that I... more |
Lube Job 2.0As we travel down the road toward Lubrication River yet again, let's talk about two more issues regarding personal lubricants.In Imerika's comment to my last... more |
Lube JobSo, I'm not a medical professional or a certified sex educator. But, I am a sex blogger who is comfortable talking to her friends... more |
A sexy and sappy weekendSeptember 2005Philly Matt and I were in love. Three weeks after my surgery, Matt came down to DC to spend the weekend with me.... more |
ExhalingAugust-September 2005Over the years, I've had a knack for getting back together with ex-boyfriends. Again. And again."Why?" you might be asking.Well, I attribute... more |
Elation to deflationAugust 2009After our very romantic date at the W Hotel, JAG Man and I went back my apartment. I wanted to have sex with... more |
The start of something good?August 2009Reservations were set for dinner with JAG Man on Thursday night."Where are we going?" I asked him enthusiastically."A new steakhouse in town," he replied."Hmm...Bourbon?""Newer,"... more |
Progress, not perfectionSummer 2009I met JAG Man in July outside of his office building. We had a lot in common, and I felt a connection with... more |
Anal 2.0Since I started blogging, my Anal 101 post has garnered the most hits. I've been thinking about what I could add to help straight... more |
Throwing out my old playbook2005I've always maintained that the bad in my life is balanced out with many wonderful blessings. In late May and early June, I was... more |
He's great on paper, but...July 2009I was still on a high from meeting JAG Man. We had a lot in common, and we were both in similar places in... more |
Great on paperSummer 2009JAG Man sightings during the month of June made for some interesting dog walks around my neighborhood. JAG Man always warranted a look back... more |
My second quasi-threesomeAnother bizarre, but not necessarily erotic, "threesome" story:November 1990It was my freshman year in college. I was sitting in my dorm room late at... more |
Can I be friends with my married exes?July 2005 Roll CallDating: Philly MattStick a fork in us because we're so done after our latest round of e-mails: Baseball BoyBack in touch with:... more |
One Matt too many!July 2005Why was Married Matt contacting me after two years? When we ended our affair in April of 2003, it was not amicable... more |
The calm before the stormJune-July 2005I was still on a high after my night in Philadelphia with Philly Matt. Even though I hadn't spent much time with him... more |
It's always sunny with Philly MattJune 2005Surprise and Heartbreak with Baseball Boy was over, and (not surprisingly) so was our relationship. Lawyer Boy had married Darby. And, I... more |
What's good for the goose...This afternoon, I posted the following Tweet: Thinking about double standards between men and women. Would I have to blog about relationships and sex anonymously... more |
My Top 10 PostsA huge shout-out to W*USA 9 reporter, Angie Goff, for her wonderful write-up about my blog! For those of you who are new to my blog,... more |
I'm a Sex BloggerLast night, I attended the DC Twestival. It was a gathering of the DC community on Twitter to benefit Miriam's Kitchen, an organization that... more |
Musings on multiples"If I had to choose between getting off once with a guy or being by myself and getting off as many times as I want,... more |
The Very Shady CrummerJune 2005I awoke the morning after bar hopping with Bex and was thankful that I didn't have to be at Tavern on the Green until... more |
The Gentlemanly Crummer?2005In mid June, I arrived in NYC. The main purpose for my visit was to cheer my Dad on as he received an award... more |
Can a threesome help you reconnect?In response to my posts on reconnecting with your partner, one of my friends suggested the option of "trying a threesome." I think a threesome... more |
More bumps off of my lady lumpsJune 2005I was just starting to fall asleep when I was awakened by The Crummer's call.The Crummer: Hey! Were you sleeping?Me: I had just... more |
Out with the old...June 2005 After going through such Surprise and Heartbreak, I didn't run from my feelings (as easy as that would have been). I took the time... more |
A City Girl Challenge - Part 2Have you orgasmed today? Yes, YOU! If you have, give yourself a pat on the back from me. If you haven't, what are you waiting... more |
A City Girl Challenge: ready...set...cum!I get excited when I hear that my friends and readers have used my posts to help explore their sexuality. For some, it might be... more |
Heartbreak - Part III (aka Off The Hook)May 2005 I was pregnant. And, for all intents and purposes, I was on my own in dealing with this. Basketball Boy headed back to North... more |
Heartbreak - Part IIMay 2005 I awoke the morning after finding out that I was pregnant and had neither the energy nor the inclination to think about what I... more |
Heartbreak - Part IMay 2005 This is by far the most personal series of posts that I've ever written. And, yes, I've had some very personal posts. This isn't... more |
A looong month is over!In one month: I learned that Lawyer Boy and Darby had gotten engaged. After finding out that Lawyer Boy had (not surprisingly) lied to me again,... more |
There's something about Philly MattApril 2005 Our second evening in Philadelphia found us at dining at Tangerine and grabbing drinks at Lucy's. I wanted to go to Club 27 to... more |
City of Brotherly Love2005 For the last weekend in April, my friends and I headed to Philly to join our girl, Nizzle, for her birthday. The plan was for... more |
My Sex SabbaticalTheir mouths open, as they try not to have their jaws drop right in front of me. I see their eyes getting wider. ... more |
Finger-licking good -- Part IIIThe vibrators are in the toy drawer. You know your woman can reach orgasm. You are looking to change up your normal routine. Tonight is... more |
Finger-licking good -- Part IIIn my last post, I talked about how vibrators can desensitize a woman's clitoral nerves, making it more difficult for her to orgasm without toys.... more |
Finger-licking goodA friend recently asked me to write a post about jilling or fingering a girl. That got me thinking about the last time that a... more |
A warm JanuaryJanuary 2005 Male Roll Call: Lawyer Boy? Check. Water Boy? Check. Basketball Boy? Check. Winters can be pretty cold in DC, but this one felt... more |
The perfect guy...almostGoogle revealed that Safeway Guy was married. But, what if the bio that I had found online was out-of-date? He and I had... more |
Bon(er) Appetit -- blow job musings 2.0My last post addressed the basics of giving a blow job. But, what do you do when your guy is ready to cum? After brunch at... more |
Bon(er) Appetit -- blow job musingsI'm planning a House "Warming" Party at my condo later this month. I put "Warming" in quotes for a reason. This party is Girls Only,... more |
The KGB is less confusing than CGB!June 2009 So, there I was on the patio of the restaurant, sitting between my date, Consulate Guy A, and his co-worker, Consulate Guy B (CGB).... more |
Foreign relations with Consulate Guy(s)June 2009 True to his word, Consulate Guy A called me the day after we crossed paths while I was walking my dog. I was on... more |
Lawyer Boy on my mind in 5-7-5Haiku* Trying to forget Our affair. My memory Like an elephant Was doing so well Put away the Kleenex box With my old yearbooks 'Til I saw the pic Of Darby's pregnant belly Floodgates... more |
All the single (and proud of it) ladies...now put your hands up!When I meet someone for the first time, I'm often asked, "Are you single, City Girl?" "Yes." I gaze into the person's eyes and notice his or... more |
Detente with The Diminutive Russian continuesThe Diminutive Russian (aka one of my worst boyfriends ever) recently joined Facebook. If the past is any indication of the future, we will randomly... more |
"Mom, I think I have frostbite!"February 1994 After The Diminutive Russian and I split up, my heart was broken. I was 20 years old and had moved down to DC for... more |
The Art of Staying Down (aka my oral sex musings)A dear friend of mine recently hinted that I should hurry up and write my post about Oral Sex. Ask and ye shall receive...I'm... more |
Status Update -- Part IIAfter my Anal 101 post was featured on DC Blogs, I was asked to describe my blog in one sentence. I went with the following: "The... more |
Helping handsI remember when I was a teenager and I tried to give my first hand job. I was living overseas and went over Embassy Boy's... more |
Anal 101Over the years, quite a few friends have asked me about anal sex. What does it feel like? What are my tips for trying it... more |
Do It for (Dr.) Johnny!For some reason, I am the subject of quite a few rumors regarding hooking up or trying to hook up with guys at weddings. Ironically,... more |
Pulling a Heisman on Football BoyIt was a warm October weekend in 2004 as my friends and I headed to Virginia Beach. I walked into our favorite bar and saw... more |
The Diminutive Russian -- Part IIThe beautiful weather of the past few days has clearly reinvigorated DC and its residents. People are outside more with smiles as warm as the... more |
Athletes are sexy. 'Roids aren't.In September of 2006, I was bored and signed up for Yahoo Personals for a month. I went out with two of the guys that... more |
The Diminutive Russian -- another contender for Best Worst BoyfriendAnother contender for my Best Worst Boyfriend would be The Diminutive Russian. The year was 1993. I had recently arrived in DC for my college... more |
Mr. PeanutsI first met Mr. Peanuts in 2007 when I stepped inside his upscale Washington boutique. He was very welcoming, and I left with a beautiful... more |
Mama Said Knock You Out2008 I was in NYC for ten days, and Lawyer Boy had a race in The Poconos. We were debating whether he should come see me... more |
The Beef -- a contender for the Best Worst BoyfriendI put a link to my blog on Facebook to increase traffic, and got an interesting comment from an ex-boyfriend, The Beef, about how he... more |
Saran Wrap should be clingy, not boys2008I decided to at least meet Mr. Port Authority when I came back home to DC. To assuage the fears of my friends who thought... more |
Laughing at a comic isn't always a good thing2005 In 2002, Basketball Boy and I went out on our first date to dinner and a comedy show at the DC Improv. We saw a... more |
A smooth second impression2007 I won a date with a guy in New York City as part of a Charity Date Auction. He was incredibly attractive with sandy-brown hair,... more |
How to scare off a commitment-phobic girl2000I was heading home from work on a crisp fall night. The city was quiet as I turned the corner onto Massachusetts Avenue. There he... more |
It's a Dick in my In Box!Last spring, I finally came to the realization that Internet dating is not for me. I've done it a few times over the years, but... more |
Nothing says a first date like The Port AuthorityI went on Match.com for a few weeks last March. Some of my friends in NYC had been using the site, and I thought it... more |
Yes, I broke my nose having sexGeorgetown Boy and I were an almost-lethal combination. He was destined to be a rebound guy from the start. I was still in love with... more |
Purple Thong BoyThis is an oldie (a dating adventure from 2002), but a goodie. I met Michael at Cheesecake Factory on a Saturday morning. That should have be... more |
Brooklyn Boy -- Part II or What Not to Say on a DateI was really looking forward to my date with Brooklyn Boy and saw the evening as a chance for us to get to know each... more |
Brooklyn Boy -- Part II recently ended a relationship with a man I loved...a lot. I know that it was the right decision to break it off with him,... more |
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A horrible first dateIt was fall of 2007, when a friend IM-ed me about fixing me up with this guy he had just met. I'm not one for... more |
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Is there a Puma inside of this City Girl?I traditionally don't date younger men. It's not a rule that I have, but more of a preference. Someone my age or a few years... more |
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